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I was raped too. Still have my PTSD and still suffer from depression. I cut myself to free the pain. And no one understands. “A small gesture can turn somebody’s situation around. Support survivors by ONLY leaving a kind and thoughtful comment.”
When I was in secondary school I had few friends in my circle (boys and girls), we were about 10 and we did everything together; party, told each other secrets, etc… Well, fast forward to when I finished my NECO examination, I was about 15/16 years old; I met someone through my friend, her elder …
It was a Sunday evening, I was returning home from visiting my girlfriend. I boarded a taxi from town to my junction. After a brief ride, the passengers alighted and the last one paid the driver in dollars. I was shocked on seeing that, we were in Nigeria, who pays for anything in dollars let …
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse “in which information is twisted, selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity.” Essentially, gaslighting is a tactic used to destabilize a victim’s understanding of reality, making the individual constantly doubt their own …
Survivors rarely report sexual assault. The question of whether to report or not is a serious one to consider, in fact, sexual assault remains the most drastically under-reported crime ever. Reporting rates are low for a variety of reasons. A survivor may be uncertain whether what happened was actually an assault. Sexual assaults that are …
Because so many people struggle with the effects of sexual trauma, whether in childhood or adulthood, I thought to put together some tips that victims and survivors can use to beat trauma and stop self-sabotage. It’ll always be a work in progress, so be patient with yourself. There is no substitute for doing the work, …
Addressing Sexual Trauma Can Seem Impossible, But There Is Hope. Read More »
In Trauma and Recovery, Judith Herman wrote, “Many survivors seek the resolution of their traumatic experience within the confines of their personal lives. But a significant minority, as a result of the trauma, feel called upon to engage in a wider world.” I have been feeling that “call to engage in the wider world” for …
A few months ago I got together with a girl (she is 17). I really loved her and we had a great time, but after some days she wanted me to shower with her, touch her and have sex with her. I told her that I don’t want it yet and that she should wait. …
Who Is a Secondary Survivor? You are a secondary survivor if a friend, partner, girlfriend, boyfriend, mother, sister, child, or anyone you are very close to is a survivor of sexual assault, physical or emotional abuse, as well as other forms of trauma. It does not matter if you knew this person when the assault …
Sexual response or orgasm during sexual assault is the best-kept and most deeply shameful secret of many victims and survivors. Unfortunately, some people believe that if a victim experiences arousal while being raped, that person must have enjoyed being raped. Some others believe that arousal is synonymous with consent. However, consent is not given by …
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