“Trauma is rooted in the body’s unfinished response to threat. When the body and mind become immobilised with fear and distress, the energy generated to fight off or flee from danger becomes frozen in our bodies. It remains stuck here, provoking over- or under-reactions to perceived threats until we thaw out the frozen reaction to this original fear. This allows the fight or flight energy to pass through, processing the associated feelings and emotions from a place of greater safety and containment.” – Khiron Clinics
For the healing process, please note: that not all the stages are experienced one by one or in any order or are applicable for everyone.
The Decision to Heal
Once you recognize the effects of the trauma in your life, deep healing can begin.
The Emergency Stage
Beginning to deal with memories and suppressed feelings can throw your life into utter turmoil. Take gentle care of yourself during this stage, take care of urgent matters in your life, stay close to safe and supportive people, and distance yourself from those who aren’t. Remember, there is real healing at the end of the journey. It won’t last forever.
Remembering
Many survivors suppress memories of what happened to them. Those who do not forget the actual incidents often forget how it felt at the time. Remembering is the process of getting back both memory and feeling. Body memories – pain that feels as if the injury happened yesterday are common.
Believing It Happened
Most adult survivors often doubt their own perceptions. Coming to believe that the traumatic event really happened and that it really hurt and affected you, is a vital part of the healing process.
Breaking Silence
Often adult survivors of abuse keep the experience a secret in childhood or kept the rape a secret in adulthood. Telling another human being about what happened is a powerful healing force that can dispel the shame of being a victim. Silence serves only to protect offenders.
Understanding That It Wasn’t Your Fault
Children and adults oftentimes believe that experiencing traumatic events such as, sexual assault, is their fault. As an adult survivor, you can place the blame where it belongs – directly on the shoulders of the perpetrator(s).
Making Contact with The Child Within
After a lifetime of protecting yourself, many survivors forget how vulnerable they really are. Pay attention to how little you were or how vulnerable you were, offering yourself the compassion you need and focusing your anger at the perpetrator can help you along your pathway to healing.
Trusting Oneself
Listen to your inner voice. Learning to trust your own perception, feelings, and intuition forms a new basis for action in the world. When you trust your own perception, you begin to see how often well-meaning people give bad advice. As you heal, you can replace that with good advice when you encounter other victims.
Grieving
As children being abused and later as adults struggling to survive, or as adult rape survivors, most haven’t felt their losses. Give yourself permission to grieve, acknowledge the pain, let go, and move forward.
Anger
Anger is a powerful and liberating force. Imagine that you are driving your anger around with all the care you would a vintage Cadillac. Try not to bump it into innocent bystanders or hit a brick wall with it. Slow it down, steer it carefully, and direct it squarely at the abuser. This tool will help you for the rest of your life.
Disclosures and Confrontations
Directly confronting the perpetrator helps some people but not everyone can or wants to do that. It can be a dramatic, powerful tool, even if it consists of merely writing it down and never disclosing it.
Resolution and Moving On
As you move through these stages again and again, one day you’ll discover that you feel calmer, more in control, more integrated. Your feelings and perceptions will stabilize. You will come to terms with the perpetrator, even if those terms keep you safe by instituting a permanent estrangement. History won’t be erased but you have made deep and lasting changes in your life. You have gained awareness, compassion, and power through healing, and are making this a better world.
If you or someone you know is struggling with anything you have read in this blog, reach out to us at Sercle Inc. We believe that we can support you toward a positive outcome by providing access to virtual and/or in-person therapies addressing underlying psychological trauma through our global directory and our safe, online community platform. Allow us to help you find the path to realistic, long-lasting recovery. For more information, reach out today: info@sercleinc.com
Сфера недропользования — это направление деятельности, связанный с разработкой подземных богатств.
Оно включает разведку минерального сырья и их дальнейшую переработку.
Эта отрасль регулируется установленными правилами, направленными на охрану окружающей среды.
Эффективное управление в недропользовании помогает сохранять ресурсы.
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Философия гедонизма — это концепция, которое выдвигает наслаждение в центр человеческой жизни.
Согласно этому взгляду, желание получать позитивные эмоции считается значимой частью существования.
Гедонизм не всегда подразумевает излишество.
Во многих трактовках он опирается на разумный подход и ответственное отношение.
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Актуальная интерпретация часто акцентирует внимание на эмоциональном благополучии.
При этом важную роль играет баланс между удовольствиями и ценностями.
Данный взгляд может помогать лучше понимать себя.
В целом, гедонизм рассматривается как подход к пониманию счастья, а не как призыв к излишествам.
Noah, I don’t know what you have with Nigerians but I don’t want to be part of whatever it is. I don’t know what connections you have with Nigeria and I don’t know how you got mixed up this issue, but it’s not my fault, I’ve tried to get you to disconnect from this issue but you clearly don’t want that or can’t do that for whatever reason. You’ve clearly been building a relationship with the people who are doing this to me, they know all about your life and plans, you’re happy with the public discourse but I’m not happy being the platform that is being used to run them everyday, so I’d very much like to get out of the picture and move on with my life.
I have very important things to do with my life. I have a business that I’ve been building and trying to get off the ground for the past 5 years now. I started building Sercle at 34 years old. I founded Share Anonymous Initiative which birthed Sercle at 29 years old and so far, Nigerians have cost me 9 years of my life all together. adetula olawale and his evil cohorts have managed to get my own family to give them free reign in wasting my life, and I’ve got you in the same place too. How you became an important figure in this issue or why, it’s between you and them. You don’t care about my business and that’s okay, but for some reason you keep making these comments. You people are the reasons why they’re doing these things to me. The fact that they have you as an audience to discourage and make you lose interest or leave you incapable of doing anything more than what they want is the reason why this is happening to me. I don’t know why these stories are what you care about but for you to be making these comments, it means you know that whatever they’re being used to write in my name or about me are false, isn’t your knowing enough? Is the problem your friends and network? Since you already know the truth, can’t you show the stories to your friends and network and tell them what is happening and how it’s being done?
I don’t know what they know about you and what they’re using to say to you in the name of the Ijeoma that they created but for me personally, the real me, what I know and have experienced from you, I don’t like and I don’t want in my life because it looks so much like the Nigerian experience that has been my life since 2016. You clearly have a problem with speaking to me directly and getting to know me privately which is the normal and healthy way to relate with someone, but it’s your problem. I have too much problems of my own that I need to deal with so that I can make progress in my life and get away from this awful country. They have cost me a lot of time and you’re helping them to cost me even more time, I don’t know what you want from me or why you’re being linked to me but all I feel now are negative emotions. I’m deeply resentful, disappointed, and contemptuous. I need to make progress in my life and since you and your partner have refused to help me, I’d appreciate it if you both got the Nigerians who are using you against me and the people who know you abroad to stay away so I can move forward and connect with new people. It is wickedness to continue to loom over me and my affairs in ways that are not doing anything to promote and supoort my wellbeing, safety, and progress in life. It is wickedness to continue to be a tool that is being used to hold me back in life. Forget about the way you both have treated me, I just want this nightmare to be over so I can move forward with my life and build my business.
I don’t know what your fans here are telling you, but I don’t want to be at the mercy of anybody, especially someone who I feel is weilding their power in ways that feel unfair to me. Having Sercle Inc sorted and an income are the only things that will truly make me happy. The only conversations I want to have with a man are about a job and funding for my startup. I’m not a fan. Please, just stay away!