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I am a young lady and I have been sexually assaulted by multiple women. Growing up, I think that is why I was always so drawn to male friends. In my elementary years I was bullied by most of the girls in my class. I believe around my 7th or 8th grade year; I was …
I am employed as a system analyst program assistant at the College of Southern Nevada. I have been working there for 20 years. My undergraduate degree is from the University of Nevada, Las Vegas in Workforce education. My graduate degree is in Creative Writing at the University of Berkley, a subsidiary of UC Berkley in …
When I was 14 I met an older teen online who sexually assaulted me. I had never been kissed and he was licking my teeth as I gripped my teeth to keep him out. He was obese. Huge. I was small and underweight. He shoved his hands up my shirt and down my pants. He …
When I was in high school, I had a boy over at my house when my parents weren’t at home, which was definitely against house rules. We were just hanging out, doing whatever kids do, when the phone rang. I picked it up in the kitchen, gesticulating wildly to the boy to be silent so …
Anonymous Story: Part Of Me Is Still Lying On That Kitchen Floor Read More »
Because so many people struggle with the effects of sexual trauma, whether in childhood or adulthood, I thought to put together some tips that victims and survivors can use to beat trauma and stop self-sabotage. It’ll always be a work in progress, so be patient with yourself. There is no substitute for doing the work, …
Addressing Sexual Trauma Can Seem Impossible, But There Is Hope. Read More »
In Trauma and Recovery, Judith Herman wrote, “Many survivors seek the resolution of their traumatic experience within the confines of their personal lives. But a significant minority, as a result of the trauma, feel called upon to engage in a wider world.” I have been feeling that “call to engage in the wider world” for …
Nothing’s foolproof, but there are research-proven changes companies could make. To start with, having more women employees, particularly in leadership roles, can reduce the incidence of harassment. Why? It’s not that women are somehow themselves preventing the behavior—in fact women too can be perpetrators—but that male-dominated organizations are more likely to have cultures characterized by aggressive …
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Who Is a Secondary Survivor? You are a secondary survivor if a friend, partner, girlfriend, boyfriend, mother, sister, child, or anyone you are very close to is a survivor of sexual assault, physical or emotional abuse, as well as other forms of trauma. It does not matter if you knew this person when the assault …
Abusers disempower their victims in any way they possibly can in order to gain the upper hand. This can result in what is known as Learned Helplessness, a theory Martin Seligman introduced based on research he conducted at Cornell University in 1967. From Wikipedia:“Learned Helplessness is a psychological condition in which a human being or …
The young woman was clearly within earshot when the boss said it to a group of male employees: “Her ass fills up so nicely in that skirt, that is the kind of ass I would tear up when I was your age.” The male colleagues listened, a few shuffled their feet and grunted in amusement …
What Men Can Do If They See a Female Colleague Being Harassed Read More »
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