Anonymous Story: I’m Fortunate This Didn’t Affect Me Permanently

I was molested by a woman, my dad’s colleague’s wife to be precise. We all lived in the same building my dad’s workplace designated to its employees. Their workplace is kind of close-knit, and since both their husbands worked in the same place, my mom & her became quite close. The couple had no kids at the time. I was the only child of my parents at the time. She was quite fond of me. I guess it was because she wanted a girl or something, not sure. So because she and my mom became quite close, girlfriend gossip & all that. she used to leave me at her place whenever she went out. She was always really nice to me.

I think I was about 4 or 5 years old at the time. One day, she called me into her room, and she asked me to suck and caress her breasts like a nursing child would with its mother. Since she used this mother-child relationship to define it, I thought it was kind of like a fun role-play. I obeyed. I really had no idea what I was doing was bad. Then she went further to give me deep French kisses. She told me I was a good girl and also said I shouldn’t tell my mom, that it’ll be our little secret. This happened a couple of times until we eventually moved to a different place.

This woman and my parents were still on good terms because I still didn’t say. A few years later, in our new place, my cousin (a girl) used to occasionally spend the holidays with us. She was older than I was but wasn’t up to 18. I think I was about 8 then. One thing led to another & she offered to suck my nipples in exchange for me sucking hers. It happened under the sheets. I think she asked me to finger her too, not sure. Still, I didn’t tell anybody anything.

*sorry, this is longer than I thought it would be*

As I reached puberty and started learning about sex. I began to feel awful for letting them do that to me. My heart would skip whenever my mom would mention either of their names (the woman and my cousin). As I grew up to have really close friendships, I discovered a lot of my friends (both guys and girls) were molested or sexually abused by women. Women being viewed as the weaker sex makes it seem like they’re not capable of abuse, when they in fact are. I’m not trying to undermine sexual abuse perpetrated by men, but those done by women are WAY more than we realize. This same mentality is also why a lot of men who were 1sexually abused or molested don’t see it as anything because they were “enjoying”. I’m fortunate this didn’t affect me permanently. I can’t say the same for others.

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